Was die Nachhaltigkeit angeht, ist eine Hochzeit eine verdammte Katastrophe. Alles wird für nur einen Tag organisiert. Oft reisen Hunderte von Gäst:innen einzeln an, es wird übermäßig viel Essen bestellt, weil man Angst hat, dass jemand verhungert, Deko wird gebastelt oder gekauft und dann weggeworfen, Candy Bars, die am Ende des Tages fast unberührt bleiben, weil die Gäste sowieso schon vollgestopft sind... die Liste ist schier endlos. Und an der Spitze steht natürlich das Hochzeitskleid. Ein Kleid, das wir (abgesehen von Britney Spears) in der Regel nur einmal in unserem Leben tragen werden. Aber natürlich ist das Hochzeitskleid etwas ganz Besonderes. An diesem Tag möchte man sich besonders schön fühlen und allein der Kauf ist mit vielen Emotionen verbunden. Es ist auch ein wichtiger Teil der Vorbereitung und hat sich im Laufe der Zeit zu einer Tradition entwickelt. Wer möchte schon dieses Ereignis verpassen, das in der Regel von vielen Tränen der Liebsten begleitet wird? Ich verstehe, dass viele zukünftige Bräute diesen Teil nicht missen möchten und möchte daher eine erste tolle Alternative vorstellen.

Gehen wir also davon aus, dass die Hochzeit wirklich der schönste Tag in Ihrem Leben und damit auch der Höhepunkt deiner Beziehung ist... Nun, auch ohne große mathematische Fähigkeiten kann man zu dem Schluss kommen, dass es nach dem maximalen Hoch nur noch bergab gehen kann. Ganz zu schweigen von der Last und dem psychischen Druck, den du dir mit der Erwartung auferlegst, dass der Hochzeitstag der schönste Tag in deinem Leben sein muss. Mein Tipp: Tut euch selbst etwas Gutes und nehmt euch diese Last von den Schultern, indem ihr diesen Mist ganz schnell vergesst.

For many, a church wedding is still the epitome of a romantic wedding. I would like to change that. In case you are sensitive about the topic, you'd better read the next blog entry, because I have made it my mission to counter this avoidably romantic idea with plenty of criticism and then explain the advantages of a free wedding ceremony.

Wedding photography can sometimes seem quite expensive. But there is much more to it than just taking photos on the wedding day. A “simple” wedding reportage alone takes me around 56 hours.

When you read the following lines, you will most probably ask yourself how I came to specialise in weddings in my profession. And that's because I really have a lot to criticise about the concept of a traditional western wedding. But just like in any movement, there needs to be critics who provide food for thought so that the world becomes a little better in the end, and that's exactly how I see myself. Hey, I'm Lilli, wedding revolutionary.

I am not a coach and this blog does not claim to show how to do something better. I don't want to teach anyone anything and I don't want to lecture anyone, I just want to inspire and say straight out what many people don't dare to say. That's kind of my thing. I can do truth. Many people don't like it, that's for sure. But truth is something I can do. Maybe that's why I became a journalist. Sometimes it can be ultra annoying with me, because often you don't really want to hear the truth. But here it is. And it starts with me being a shitty coach because my way is one way, but it doesn't work for others. We all have different backgrounds, different stories, different pasts, different environments, different families, different circumstances.

Why the need for security is human. But also mistakes...

Absurdly, it is the feeling of security, of all things, that paralyses us and prevents us from taking a step further. Although we are obviously unwell and dissatisfied with our own situation, we prefer to wallow in "avoidable" security than to finally leave the vicious circle in which we find ourselves. I speak deliberately of "avoidable" security, because honestly, what is secure these days? At the latest after the pandemic and the outbreak of war, even the most ignorant people among us should have realised that nothing in life is safe and that every single one of us can become a victim of war, disease or persecution just like those who are harshly condemned by so many in our society for not adapting to anything. And yet we, those who think we are safe, are the worst. We think we are on the safe side with our office job and previous education. We are afraid of losing control, completely ignoring the fact that we never had it.

Most things don't happen because you don't do them…

Recently, a friend asked me if I would be available for an interview for her social media channel. As a journalist, I am usually the one sitting on the other side, so I couldn't explain this request at first and asked "why". "Because you are a doer, Lilli! And there aren't many like you," she answered. Maybe it's because we, as women, are unfortunately born modest, but I was almost a little ashamed to say yes to her. But she was right. And in fact, the fact that I am a doer is one of the things in life that I am most proud of myself. Because it is exactly this fact that helps me to turn a dream into reality.

Lilli Fischer

Sun or Rain?

Many people dream of emigrating. A life where others go on holiday. That sounds wonderful at first, but the thoughts we have too often deviate too much from reality. And I would like to make one thing clear right at the beginning. Emigrating is a big step and demands a lot from us, but the shit really starts to hit the fan once you're there. Suddenly you are faced with reality. Ideally, it's reality with sunshine or something, but in any case it suddenly doesn't have much to do with what we imagined. And this is exactly the crucial point. No matter how well you have planned and researched beforehand, the reality is simply different. Problems will arise that you didn't expect and once the initial emigration adrenaline rush wears off, your psyche will start to speak up. And now it's a matter of taking action.

Lilli Fischer